Waleed Basyouni – Should Muslim Women Take Their Husbands Last Name
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The speaker discusses the culture of Islam and how it impacts the lineage of the woman who holds the throne. They stress the importance of protecting the lineage and ensuring that anyone claims to be from a certain family does not match the lineage. The speaker also emphasizes the need to ensure that anyone who claims to be from a certain family does not match the lineage.
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As-salamu alaykum Shaykh, you know when a
woman gets married, you know the culture here
in America where the woman takes on the
husband's last name.
What is the Islamic ruling in this?
And can she keep, let's say, can she
do this, like hyphenate her last name with
his last name and make it where it
is born?
So what is the ruling in taking on
the husband's last name?
Alhamdulillah, as-salatu as-salamu alaykum Rasulullah.
We know one of the ultimate goal of
Sharia is to protect the lineage.
So everybody knows where is my family, who
are my family, I descend from what family,
I go back to this lineage and protecting
that.
Because there are so many rules associated with
that.
For example, there is bir al-walidayn, even
to all grandparents.
So your children knows who your grandparents, great
-grandparents and so forth.
Even if they are dead, there's still responsibility
to make dua for them to know who
they are.
Also financial support for cousins, uncles, aunts and
stuff like that.
So knowing your lineage, also there is financial
responsibility, dua, visitations, and also marrying the mahram,
the mahram, stuff like that.
So there's a lot of rules related to
it.
So that's why Islam cares so much about
making sure that the lineage is known and
protected.
So when you take somebody's else lineage or
family, Allah SWT said, ibu'uhum li-aaba
'ihim, huwa aqsatun indallah.
Yani, make sure that you call them and
make sure that they have the name of
their family, their fathers.
And fathers here, forefathers, et cetera.
So when you say, for example, my wife
would say, hi, my name is so-and
-so Basyuni.
You're not, that's not your great-father.
Okay?
Tayyib.
If this is the case, we say also
Nabi salallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Bukhari
and Muslim, whoever claims himself to a tribe
that is not from it, should not expect
a place except a place in hellfire.
Or expect a place in hellfire for yourself.
To claim that you're from a certain family
or a tribe which is not yours.
That make it a major sin.
And it says in Bukhari and Muslim.
And there's many other hadith very, very strict
in the wording about not to call yourself
or to claim a father to you who
is not yours or a family that is
not yours.
Somebody might have a counter argument.
He said, when I say my last name
and I'm married, it's known culturally that this
is not my last name.
It is my husband's last name.
Okay?
So I'm not really, nobody understand that this
is my grandfather.
So these hadith not applicable to our situation
here.
And I understand that.
But that's why I don't, I'm not going
to categorize it like the same categorization of
a major sin like someone claimed to be
from a family that he doesn't belong to.
But still there is something not correct here.
First that's not the way Islam, Islam also
has a culture has to be respected and
adopted in certain area.
And part of it, the issue of naming,
you know, and the issue of naming and
how the family structure are.
And definitely not in the Muslims at all
culture or practice that they ever, a wife
will take the family, her husband's last name.
And as a matter of fact, if you
trace back why a wife would take a
last name, you might be surprised the history
behind it.
And for us, we believe when you marry
this man, you don't take his name, his
last name.
He doesn't own you.
You still have your entity, you still have
your family, you don't have your, you know,
and your children need to know who you
are and what kind of family you came
from.
And many times she's just forgotten where this
woman came from and became like, you know,
very strange, like, like I've seen people, for
example, who are not Arabs, but they have
a very Arab last name, okay, or Indian
last name.
And they're not.
And I said, how did you end up
with it?
Oh, I used to be married to someone
who's not even not married anymore, but you
still have that.
Yeah.
It costs money to notice the last name
and stuff like that.
So how can you justify that?
So with all this in consideration, I would
say, unless there is a legal requirement from
you to take the last name, you can
take it legally, but make sure that in
home, make sure in your family that you're
known by your own last name.
Like I know sister in the master.
I don't know what's their family last name.
I know their husband's last name on the
call them after their husband's last name.
So they are forgotten.
But if you're going to take, do that,
make sure that at least known to the
people, to the friend that the daily use
is your own name, right?
Okay.
Uh, but if we live in a culture
that is put the wife's last name, uh,
with the husband's last name and it became
known to people, that's the custom that the,
the, the very known to, I don't believe
it's haram, but it will be in the,
in the very macro area.
But I will not say it is haram
because there is nobody claiming that it's so
clear.
If nobody ever will think this is my
head or grandfather, this is her family.
You know, uh, people will know that this
is just a, a name.
It's like when you say, for example, uh,
it'd been to me that his grandmother or
grandmother is not someone like, it's not a
grandfather, you know what I'm saying?
Um, so it is very known that this
is not a lineage.
It's very known that this is not a
family name, her own family or her tribe
or her family came from.
Um, that's, that's what I, I, uh, I
stand on this issue.
All right.
Jazakallah Khair Sheikh.