Waleed Basyouni – Should Muslim Women Take Their Husbands Last Name

Waleed Basyouni
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The speaker discusses the culture of Islam and how it impacts the lineage of the woman who holds the throne. They stress the importance of protecting the lineage and ensuring that anyone claims to be from a certain family does not match the lineage. The speaker also emphasizes the need to ensure that anyone who claims to be from a certain family does not match the lineage.

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			As-salamu alaykum Shaykh, you know when a
		
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			woman gets married, you know the culture here
		
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			in America where the woman takes on the
		
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			husband's last name.
		
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			What is the Islamic ruling in this?
		
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			And can she keep, let's say, can she
		
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			do this, like hyphenate her last name with
		
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			his last name and make it where it
		
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			is born?
		
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			So what is the ruling in taking on
		
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			the husband's last name?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, as-salatu as-salamu alaykum Rasulullah.
		
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			We know one of the ultimate goal of
		
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			Sharia is to protect the lineage.
		
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			So everybody knows where is my family, who
		
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			are my family, I descend from what family,
		
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			I go back to this lineage and protecting
		
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			that.
		
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			Because there are so many rules associated with
		
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			that.
		
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			For example, there is bir al-walidayn, even
		
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			to all grandparents.
		
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			So your children knows who your grandparents, great
		
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			-grandparents and so forth.
		
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			Even if they are dead, there's still responsibility
		
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			to make dua for them to know who
		
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			they are.
		
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			Also financial support for cousins, uncles, aunts and
		
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			stuff like that.
		
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			So knowing your lineage, also there is financial
		
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			responsibility, dua, visitations, and also marrying the mahram,
		
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			the mahram, stuff like that.
		
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			So there's a lot of rules related to
		
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			it.
		
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			So that's why Islam cares so much about
		
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			making sure that the lineage is known and
		
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			protected.
		
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			So when you take somebody's else lineage or
		
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			family, Allah SWT said, ibu'uhum li-aaba
		
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			'ihim, huwa aqsatun indallah.
		
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			Yani, make sure that you call them and
		
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			make sure that they have the name of
		
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			their family, their fathers.
		
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			And fathers here, forefathers, et cetera.
		
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			So when you say, for example, my wife
		
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			would say, hi, my name is so-and
		
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			-so Basyuni.
		
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			You're not, that's not your great-father.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Tayyib.
		
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			If this is the case, we say also
		
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			Nabi salallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Bukhari
		
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			and Muslim, whoever claims himself to a tribe
		
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			that is not from it, should not expect
		
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			a place except a place in hellfire.
		
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			Or expect a place in hellfire for yourself.
		
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			To claim that you're from a certain family
		
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			or a tribe which is not yours.
		
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			That make it a major sin.
		
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			And it says in Bukhari and Muslim.
		
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			And there's many other hadith very, very strict
		
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			in the wording about not to call yourself
		
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			or to claim a father to you who
		
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			is not yours or a family that is
		
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			not yours.
		
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			Somebody might have a counter argument.
		
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			He said, when I say my last name
		
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			and I'm married, it's known culturally that this
		
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			is not my last name.
		
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			It is my husband's last name.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			So I'm not really, nobody understand that this
		
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			is my grandfather.
		
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			So these hadith not applicable to our situation
		
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			here.
		
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			And I understand that.
		
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			But that's why I don't, I'm not going
		
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			to categorize it like the same categorization of
		
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			a major sin like someone claimed to be
		
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			from a family that he doesn't belong to.
		
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			But still there is something not correct here.
		
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			First that's not the way Islam, Islam also
		
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			has a culture has to be respected and
		
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			adopted in certain area.
		
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			And part of it, the issue of naming,
		
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			you know, and the issue of naming and
		
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			how the family structure are.
		
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			And definitely not in the Muslims at all
		
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			culture or practice that they ever, a wife
		
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			will take the family, her husband's last name.
		
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			And as a matter of fact, if you
		
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			trace back why a wife would take a
		
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			last name, you might be surprised the history
		
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			behind it.
		
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			And for us, we believe when you marry
		
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			this man, you don't take his name, his
		
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			last name.
		
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			He doesn't own you.
		
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			You still have your entity, you still have
		
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			your family, you don't have your, you know,
		
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			and your children need to know who you
		
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			are and what kind of family you came
		
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			from.
		
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			And many times she's just forgotten where this
		
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			woman came from and became like, you know,
		
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			very strange, like, like I've seen people, for
		
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			example, who are not Arabs, but they have
		
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			a very Arab last name, okay, or Indian
		
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			last name.
		
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			And they're not.
		
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			And I said, how did you end up
		
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			with it?
		
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			Oh, I used to be married to someone
		
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			who's not even not married anymore, but you
		
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			still have that.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			It costs money to notice the last name
		
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			and stuff like that.
		
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			So how can you justify that?
		
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			So with all this in consideration, I would
		
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			say, unless there is a legal requirement from
		
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			you to take the last name, you can
		
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			take it legally, but make sure that in
		
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			home, make sure in your family that you're
		
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			known by your own last name.
		
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			Like I know sister in the master.
		
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			I don't know what's their family last name.
		
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			I know their husband's last name on the
		
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			call them after their husband's last name.
		
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			So they are forgotten.
		
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			But if you're going to take, do that,
		
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			make sure that at least known to the
		
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			people, to the friend that the daily use
		
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			is your own name, right?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Uh, but if we live in a culture
		
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			that is put the wife's last name, uh,
		
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			with the husband's last name and it became
		
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			known to people, that's the custom that the,
		
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			the, the very known to, I don't believe
		
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			it's haram, but it will be in the,
		
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			in the very macro area.
		
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			But I will not say it is haram
		
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			because there is nobody claiming that it's so
		
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			clear.
		
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			If nobody ever will think this is my
		
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			head or grandfather, this is her family.
		
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			You know, uh, people will know that this
		
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			is just a, a name.
		
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			It's like when you say, for example, uh,
		
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			it'd been to me that his grandmother or
		
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			grandmother is not someone like, it's not a
		
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			grandfather, you know what I'm saying?
		
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			Um, so it is very known that this
		
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			is not a lineage.
		
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			It's very known that this is not a
		
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			family name, her own family or her tribe
		
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			or her family came from.
		
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			Um, that's, that's what I, I, uh, I
		
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			stand on this issue.
		
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			All right.
		
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			Jazakallah Khair Sheikh.